Tuesday, September 14, 2010

a marriage in the mountains

Once upon a time, in a freshman dorm called Crossroads, at a university called Purchase College, four 18 year old kids met - mostly because they all lived on the same hall. Over the years, this foursome went through breakups, hangovers, finals, parties, dining hall food, and countless other adventures. Then they all graduated, and they mostly moved away and apart.

Scott, one of these four kids, ended up traveling the world. I moved to Texas, and we all know how that turned out. Ella and Rachel stayed in New York and even lived together for a few years, and then Rachel left for Chicago. This past weekend, we were reunited in Massachusetts, for Scott's wedding. He married a kind, intelligent and beautiful woman named Melanie, and I could not be happier for the two of them.

Friendship is weird. In the case of Scott and Ella and Rachel, I saw them nearly every day for four solid years (except for the semester when Scott and I studied abroad in Ireland, which is a whole other list of adventures and hangovers). Since we graduated in 2004, I see them maybe twice a year. We've all changed so much since we walked across the stage and accepted our diplomas. Seen so many things, fallen in and out of love with so many people, had so many triumphs and failures and blossomed into the people we were just starting to discover all the years ago, on the second floor of Crossroads. I'm proud of each of us, and honored to know we are still - and will always be - a part of each others' lives.

Enough of the mushy stuff. Here's what you really need to know: this wedding was the best one I've ever been to. We arrived at the manor on Friday evening, just in time for the rehearsal dinner, an open bar, and a blazing bonfire. In the morning we woke up groggy and found breakfast downstairs. We went for a run on the Appalachian trail in the blessedly cool mountain air (six miles, which felt more like 15 and left me sore for days - oh, the elevations!). At lunch, more food appeared, which was delicious. Then there was the wedding, during which I cried steadily, then a cocktail hour, followed by dinner, followed by yet more drinking and a long night of dancing. In the morning? Yes. Brunch before we headed back to Texas and Scott and Melanie left for a ten day honeymoon in France and Spain.

The barn where we danced the night away. 

Ella made this cake beforehand and assembled it on site. 

These are my party shoes. 

I love this idea for place cards!

A friend's small child drew this and then a grown up tacked it to the wall.

This, my friends, is how weddings are done. You can bet I was taking notes for one day in the - dare I say it? - not-so-distant future.

Have you ever been to a unique and super fun wedding? Most of the weddings I've been to were family affairs, Catholic weddings which always feature a full mass. This type of wedding - personalized, with friends officiating, other friends telling the stories of how the couple met, and parents reading poems and original short stories - was so fun and personalized that it made me want to start planning a wedding immediately.


  1. It all looks so lovely. Did she ever put up all the leaves as part of the barn's decor?

  2. That was actually a wedding in a barn for a different friend. I didn't go to that wedding, but she did use the leaves and they looked awesome! Apparently, barns are very popular right now!

  3. Aw, that wedding looks amazing! I love the barn & your shoes & what a great friendship you all have (even if it has changed over the years). If I were to ever have a "regular" wedding, it would have to be like Scott's!

  4. It looks like a beautiful wedding. I didn't enjoy wedding planning, and I didn't feel good about the money we were going to spend -- that's why we eloped and then had a small reception at our home with family and close friends.

  5. You had me at "we arrived at the manor"

  6. I'm still up in the air about how and when and IF I want to get married. Well, I know I want to, and that's a new thing. And mostly, I want the party with all my favorite people in attendance. I think I'd look at it more as "I'm hosting an awesome weekend my friends and family will never forget," and less "I am spending thousands of dollars on my wedding." Then again, I'm pretty thrifty so maybe I could do a big party on the cheap? And maybe that challenge would be the most exciting part of the whole event?!

    I need help. :P

  7. I thought I posted a comment on this...but I've been having interweb troubles :( I wanted to share that the best ceremony (not wedding) I ever attended was a 25 year anniversary celebration for my parents' friends. Same sex marriage isn't legal in NY so they had a small Jewish ceremony that wasn't the wedding ceremony (they're holding out for legal marriage) and had readings by friends, and then we all sang "Somewhere Over the Rainbow." I cried. I laughed. I danced. It was just about the love. I am with you on wanting to have an awesome party with friends and family. Some delicious vegan food and rocking music. That's just us as a couple. I don't need flower arrangements. Just marriage would be enough!

  8. I so wish gay marriage was legal. I'm optimistic that it will be soon - you'll have your awesome party! We all will!

  9. It will be! And in the meantime we're saving our money to finance all those vegan cupcakes we want to feed our guests!

  10. I already have my friend Ella (who made the cake in this post) lined up to my vegan cupcakes. I love cupcakes at a wedding. :)